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WORDS That Empower Our Children
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WORDS That Empower Our Children

WORDS are powerful. At times, we can speak without thinking. A rushed moment, or we maybe tired from a long day of work, perhaps guilty of doing too many things at once or quite simply we’re grumpy. A reaction pops out. Or in my case ‘explodes’ out. Believe me ~ it happens to the best of us! Words can have long-lasting effects, especially on our children. A thoughtless word can shatter a child’s confidence, self-esteem and sense of worth. I’ve spent much of my adulthood, healing from the consequences of growing up with abusive and hurtful words. Some words have power beyond our years, beyond whatever changes we may make to ourselves and to our lives.

I made a conscious decision when my children were much younger to empower them in every way that I possibly could. I wished for my children to grow up healthy, loved, self-reliant and confident ~ in both themselves and their natural abilities. Words and actions have been the two platforms in which I’ve created effective empowerment.

Words & actions from a place of LOVE.

I have become aware of words as I say them. Thinking before I speak. I always try to speak from a place of love. True power should not hurt anyone; it should help them to see their own greatness and potential. I am conscious of the effect my words have ~ our words resonate within the very core of our children. Our words act as barometer, for how our children will speak to others and how they expect to be treated in return.

These are some of our WORDS that we use within our home to encourage, empower and reassure our children ……..

 

  1. I LOVE you
  2. You are beautiful
  3. Be YOU
  4. Expect great things
  5. Find your UNIQUE gift & share it
  6. BREATHE
  7. Relax
  8. What was your favourite thing today
  9. I TRUST you
  10. You are my teacher
  11. You don’t have to be good at everything
  12. You are KIND
  13. Live from heart
  14. Always stand in truth
  15. I BELIEVE in you
  16. Dance to the beat of your own drum
  17. Trust your INTUITION
  18. I am so proud of you
  19. You are MAGNIFICENT
  20. Do what makes you happy
  21. I’m listening
  22. Mistakes are lessons
  23. Let’s read
  24. It’s ok to say NO
  25. You are my SUNSHINE

It is a JOY, a privilege and a huge responsibility to parent a child. We don’t always get it right, but each day we have a new chance in shaping the lives of our children, their confidence and their self-esteem. There is still a place for words of discipline and disapproval of poor behaviour, but finding the right words to address the action is more appropriate than labelling or hurting a child.

Our words and conversations with our children create our reality, our future and our relationships. Remember ‘our voice becomes their inner voice’.

Check out Little Angels ~ a book I wrote with my three young daughters, offering a section of empowering messages & illustrations, designed to help curb fear and anxiety in other children. More information is available at www.sarahfiggins.com

With Love Sarah xx

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Everything Happens For A Reason
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Everything Happens For A Reason

My wise Grandmother, who in the eye of any meaningful situation quotes “everything happens for a reason”, has been a tremendous teacher in my life. She has a calm resolve in accepting any struggle for reasons beyond her control. Like my grandmother, I believe that the magic, the tremendous people and the struggles along my own passage have been orchestrated by a kind of master plan from a greater universal force.

I conclude that people come into our life not by any coincidence, but to serve a purpose on our life’s journey. Synchronicity delivers this friend, spouse, relative, teacher, or neighbour to demonstrate compelling life lessons. To guide us, mentor or instigate the writings of our unwritten story. These gifts do not define us, they serve us, they are there for the reason we need them to be.

Like the people that show up in our journey at the precise needed moment, incidents happen in our life with divine intention, and all for a reason. Our highs and daunting lows and the bendy twists and turns, are all part of our life story. The love, loss, ill health, milestones, tragedy and great moments, are perfectly paved into our road to test the absolute limits of our soul and its evolvement.

Once we live from this perspective of greater awareness, the road we are travelling, feels less retching. Knowing and anticipating the potential lessons that comes from each person or situation that presents, allows a kind of acceptance of where we are in our personal memoir. It diminishes our struggle, our anguish and the resistance we harbour. The key is to simply ‘trust the process’ and know it is for a greater ‘reason’.

This beautiful poem by an unknown author captures the essence of people coming into our life’s story for a reason.

With love,

Sarah xx

 

People come into your path for a reason a season or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do with that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty…

To provide you with guidance and support…

To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually…

They may seem like they are a godsend, and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die…

Sometimes they walk away…

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand….

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled…

Their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has now been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON.

Because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons.

Things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life…

Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime

~ Unknown author