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The MAGIC of KINDNESS ……
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The MAGIC of KINDNESS ……

13497558_1653732211618649_4058488115813568463_oKindness is the capacity of an individual to act from a place of genuine concern for oneself and others. Qualities of kindness include empathy, compassion, generosity and consideration. In our home, my children and I discuss the importance of acting kindly with the intention of making a positive difference in our world. We believe that being ‘kind’ is a choice made from the belief that every one of our actions ~ influences others.

On a recent holiday I witnessed this sentiment of ‘kindness’ demonstrated by my daughters and it literally took my breathe away. Away from their learning environment, their home with absence of family faces and friends they offered kindness from pure intention, unprompted by myself.

Our daily routine of meandering the shoreline was habitually followed by a stop at a bustling cafe. The first morning a waiter connected to my children’s unease, as they eyed the queue of busy professionals shuffling side to side impatiently waiting to order their coffees. The waiter instantly calmed them with a loud cheery, ‘Good morning lovely girls. Once we take these orders, I’m going to ask you what you would like. Won’t be long’. His excitement was almost frowned upon as people restlessly shuffled and continued to speak on phones. Too busy for morning chatter! Two patrons were even rude enough to dismiss this waiter’s energy and direct their orders to the co-waitress.

Mark, as he introduced himself, recommended a colossal world of flavours to my girls and they were thrilled. Mark’s speech was slurred and his hand jerked back and forth as he wrote a name on their order. Genuinely transfixed by the joy in Mark’s eyes and his enthusiasm for the store’s products, my daughters didn’t seem to notice any of the waiter’s impediments. Our shakes were soon after hand-delivered to our table, by Mark. The delivery was a little awkward in movement, but again unnoticed. My girls whooped with delight. Mark’s face was alight with such purity, that I fought back tears. I was overwhelmed by a total feeling of oneness.

Everyday we stopped at this cafe. And everyday my girls waited to be served by this special person ~ who not only paid an earnest interest in them and what they were doing, but who remembered what drinks they liked and excitedly told them about what they should try. There was a day when Mark was absent, the girls remarked that their shakes did not taste the same. They lacked ‘connectedness’.

On our final day the girls took extra long with their order. We sat at our table by the window and flicked through photos we’d taken. We laughed. We chatted. We reminisced over our days together. We all savoured the taste of our delicious shakes. Standing to leave we saw Mark sitting at a table enjoying a work break. I stopped by his table to shake his hand in gratitude for the last nine days of excellent service. My youngest daughter then said ‘Thank you for bringing sunshine to our every morning’. My middle daughter said ‘your shakes are the BEST’, and my eldest daughter looked at Mark and said to him ‘I love that you are brave in a world that judges. That you are YOU – I am going to take that back home with me’. Mark stood up and bowed his head and in his broken speech said ‘thank you angels for gracing me with your kindness and love. You have had my days very happy’.

I think of all the learning opportunities we enable our children. The options. The advantages. The education. And then I witness this. This play of kindness. A true sense of authenticity. The demonstration of connecting. Individuals each shining their light. The pure intention of making a difference ~ and it is these moments that are above everything else.

With Love Sarah xx

Our book Little Angels’ is available to buy via my website: here

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WORDS That Empower Our Children
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WORDS That Empower Our Children

WORDS are powerful. At times, we can speak without thinking. A rushed moment, or we maybe tired from a long day of work, perhaps guilty of doing too many things at once or quite simply we’re grumpy. A reaction pops out. Or in my case ‘explodes’ out. Believe me ~ it happens to the best of us! Words can have long-lasting effects, especially on our children. A thoughtless word can shatter a child’s confidence, self-esteem and sense of worth. I’ve spent much of my adulthood, healing from the consequences of growing up with abusive and hurtful words. Some words have power beyond our years, beyond whatever changes we may make to ourselves and to our lives.

I made a conscious decision when my children were much younger to empower them in every way that I possibly could. I wished for my children to grow up healthy, loved, self-reliant and confident ~ in both themselves and their natural abilities. Words and actions have been the two platforms in which I’ve created effective empowerment.

Words & actions from a place of LOVE.

I have become aware of words as I say them. Thinking before I speak. I always try to speak from a place of love. True power should not hurt anyone; it should help them to see their own greatness and potential. I am conscious of the effect my words have ~ our words resonate within the very core of our children. Our words act as barometer, for how our children will speak to others and how they expect to be treated in return.

These are some of our WORDS that we use within our home to encourage, empower and reassure our children ……..

 

  1. I LOVE you
  2. You are beautiful
  3. Be YOU
  4. Expect great things
  5. Find your UNIQUE gift & share it
  6. BREATHE
  7. Relax
  8. What was your favourite thing today
  9. I TRUST you
  10. You are my teacher
  11. You don’t have to be good at everything
  12. You are KIND
  13. Live from heart
  14. Always stand in truth
  15. I BELIEVE in you
  16. Dance to the beat of your own drum
  17. Trust your INTUITION
  18. I am so proud of you
  19. You are MAGNIFICENT
  20. Do what makes you happy
  21. I’m listening
  22. Mistakes are lessons
  23. Let’s read
  24. It’s ok to say NO
  25. You are my SUNSHINE

It is a JOY, a privilege and a huge responsibility to parent a child. We don’t always get it right, but each day we have a new chance in shaping the lives of our children, their confidence and their self-esteem. There is still a place for words of discipline and disapproval of poor behaviour, but finding the right words to address the action is more appropriate than labelling or hurting a child.

Our words and conversations with our children create our reality, our future and our relationships. Remember ‘our voice becomes their inner voice’.

Check out Little Angels ~ a book I wrote with my three young daughters, offering a section of empowering messages & illustrations, designed to help curb fear and anxiety in other children. More information is available at www.sarahfiggins.com

With Love Sarah xx

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TEACHING OUR CHILDREN “INTUITION” ….
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TEACHING OUR CHILDREN “INTUITION” ….

 

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Carl Jung said: “Intuition is a function by which you see round corners” and it was Albert Einstein who once said that intuition is our most valuable asset, and one of our most unused senses. My youngest daughter in my book, Little Angels, describes intuition as a voice deep inside her tummy that tells her when she should or shouldn’t do something. She claims that this voice inside is always right. Page 6 of my book, depicts this very daughter contemplating climbing a bookcase to fetch a ball, that we had purposely placed up high. In reality she did climb the shelves, lost her balance and created a disarray of books, photo frames and cushions. When I walked into the room she said, ‘Mamma, my tummy was telling me not to climb, but I didn’t listen to it’. I smiled as I realised the importance of her acknowledging her own ability to judge between what was right and what was wrong. We have always encouraged our children to listen to this inner voice, their gut-feeling, their judgment connected to their feelings rather than their analytical mind – to rely on their inner voice that ‘just knows’.

 

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How many times have you had a random thought, response or impression that you should do or shouldn’t do something, only to later find out that your sensitivity was completely accurate? For some married couples, it took just one look to recognise their soul mate. Have you ever had a gut instinct about a situation and not listened to yourself but later reflected you wish you had? These flashes are familiar to everyone. Intuition is natural, a part of all of us. Intuition will tell you intimate and important things nobody else will—and it will also tell you things your own mind will argue with.

 

Intuition is a vital life skill set and I’m passionate about educating our children to rely upon this inner wisdom. For each of us, as our life story unfolds, with its plots and twists, highs and lows, times of difficulties and choices – simply going with our ‘gut’ can be the make or break of our navigation. Teaching our children from a young age to instinctively consult their inner wisdom prepares them for the wide world beyond. During their challenging teenage years of vulnerability, confusion, self-consciousness, fast-pace; intuition can be the key skillset that averts potentially damaging choices.

 

One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is to teach them to trust their intuition. This gift will be one of their strongest protections, empowering them through life’s crises and curve balls. Intuition will be what gets our children through.

 

With Love Sarah xx


How To Help Your Child Find Their True Purpose
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How To Help Your Child Find Their True Purpose

The word dharma resonates deeply within me. Put most simply, our dharma is our true-life purpose. Our calling. I believe we all possess a unique gift that we are intended to share in this physical lifetime.

I remember the recently passed, Wayne Dyer, talking about one’s dharma and it struck a personal chord. He explained a bumblebee knows what it has been born to do. “To bumble and do what bees do” and that a tree knows its life purpose, as does the beautiful rose. He went on to say, that as humans we tend to interfere and divert from our natural purpose. I have witnessed this in my own life, we can cross paths with our intended journey, we can claim it, we can flirt with it and sometimes sadly we can miss our calling all together.

I remind my own children regularly, that they each have a special talent to share with our world. It is crucial message, setting a foundation to their individual life journeys.  Quite consciously, I remove pressure and expectations from their respective achievements and performances. I encourage that they try a myriad of varying opportunities, to experiment and see what resonates with their true spirit. The special “thing” that each child is intended to share, that ‘magic’, that ‘unique gift’, I trust will naturally weave its way into their existence. We must as parents be careful in our coaching and guidance. Our own expectations, even our own unfulfilled dreams or desires can impose limitations or restrictions upon our child’s authentic purpose.

My eldest daughter recently showed me a maths test result. I praised her achievement and talked through the particular unit of maths. She expressed her concern that two of her friends received a higher score and that maths was a subject she really has to apply herself to. The look of concern on her little face worried me. I asked her why she was so distracted over her friends’ scores. She explained that with the commitment she had invested into this subject, she had expected she would have achieved similar results. I asked her;

“Do you enjoy maths?”

“Not really, the formulas and equations are just so difficult. It doesn’t feel easy. I wish I didn’t have to study maths.”

“How can we help you?”

“I don’t need help. I’m passing. I’m not really worried, just frustrated Mum.”

“What else are you studying that feels more natural to you?’ I asked.

“That’s easy”, she replied. “There’s a heap. I love writing, persuasive text is my favourite. Science thrills me. There’s something so fascinating about the Chinese language. My horse riding lessons never seem long enough. And sprinting, my legs have a mind of their own, and I run fast.”

I wrapped my arms around her and reassured her that these pursuits were her natural tendencies. “You don’t have to be good at everything. Accept your maths results. Don’t compare yourself to others. You need to find what makes YOU, YOU.”

My new book Little Angels bestows many affirmations for children, that I hope will help reduce fear and anxiety in our beautiful, individual blossoms. Check out my website for stockists: www.sarahfiggins.com

 

 

 

 


Little Angels
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Little Angels

One morning, my three amazing daughters and I sat in the car, on our way to school. We chatted about a friend’s daughter, who has anxiety as she adjusts to a new school. I listened to their suggestions and words of advice on ways this young girl could alter her situation and begin to enjoy this new experience.

I have always regarded my three girls as my teachers. Blessed that these Earth-Angels chose me as their mother in this lifetime, I’m extremely aware of the life lessons they bring to my everyday. We openly chat to our Angels, share our feelings, discuss the laws of attraction, meditate, heal, laugh, cry and share a deep connection of love and respect. I nurture, guide, support, love and recognise that each one of my daughters is on her own, individual journey. Each girl is here to fulfil her own life purpose.

My youngest daughter Claudia, whom we call Clouds, suggested we write a book for children using ideas from children. The ideas were to let children know they can ask for and get help from Angels, fairies, unicorns, music, the universe, meditation, friends and family. The car was a hive of conversation and excitement as we pondered the notion of sharing our awareness with like-minded children and families.

Witnessing the innate desire of my 10, 11 and 12 year old daughters wanting to connect and inspire other children, was a moment that simply took my breath away. Within an instant, from the words of ‘Little Angels’, this book was born.

With Love,

Sarah xx