We were all created as completely unique and special in our own way. We are all equal in the very fact that we are each different. This is crucially fundamental in raising our children.
Each and every child is special, with unique combinations of abilities and needs. Parenting requires that we treat each child as a unique individual. Respecting a child’s individuality means displaying a genuine acceptance of that child as a unique creation ~ who has unlimited potential within them to fulfil their true life’s purpose.
A child who is embraced for their exclusive attributes, accepted for their differences, welcomed for the way they see our world, applauded for dancing to the beat of their own drum; is a child who flourishes in their uniqueness. These children develop a greater sense of self-confidence and self-esteem.
Discovering our children, what makes them tick and what excites them, without any comparison to their siblings or others, I believe is true magic. What a magnificent contribution parents can make to humanity, through consciously raising wholesome children that we don’t simply regard as an extension of ourselves.
With love Sarah xx
Illustrations taken from my children’s book ‘Little Angels’ available for sale on my website here
Understanding love is a process. Often it means transcending self-imposed limitations and past experience imprints before we can truly expand in full heart. It entails a personal and shared journey filled with tremendous personal growth, extraordinary challenges, bounty and absolute unique experiences of life and self.
Navigating through my own spiritual journey, I have grasped the duality between love and fear. In every moment we are either in a state of love or in a state of fear. Where there is fear there is no room for love. Where there is love there is no room for fear. My own indentation of fear was prominently embedded deep in my subconscious from very early childhood. Fear constantly paralysed my expansion as I adapted habitual emotional responses in situations and relationships that disarmed me. Even though I have often relied on the ‘fight or flight’ emotional instinct of my brain for survival, higher reason and mortality can only be actualized in a state of love. Shifting from fear, to living a life of love has been the most incredible transformation in my own personal journey.
Exterminating my natural fear inclinations was an expedition through many, many layers, requesting a changed mindset, patience and dedication.
- Practicing the art of mediation has been my most powerful vehicle. Regular mindfulness practice, has allowed my mind and nervous system repose in profound silence, clearing blocks and dissolving stubborn obstacles.
- Past Life Regression Therapy via Brian Weiss workshops enlightened my spiritual growth staggeringly. Experiencing past life incarnations was a gateway to understanding my current life, to healing my current afflictions and renewing my ongoing evolvement.
- Attending a Doreen Virtue, Angel Intuitive workshop. During a group ‘healing addiction’ mediation, not sugar, nor caffeine, but fear raised its ugly head! The awareness the meditation delivered was phenomenal.
- A profound Quantum Consciousness experience with my spiritual teacher, Melissa Haymes, allowed me to tap into my own personal wisdom, layers of consciousness and cosmic consciousness. I received instant insight. I physically wretched my black core of ‘fear’ at the end of the session, liberating me metaphysically and emotionally.
Letting go of my addiction to fear has been a personal battle. A liken it to a child relinquishing their ‘blankie’. The touch of it was an innate comfort that had become habitual. Surrendering fear and reclaiming more personal power has allowed me back home to myself. To my true, authentic being. To my divine nature of pure love.
Love is state of being. Love is for others, love is for you, love is for our children, love is for our neighbours, love is for nature, and love is for all. We are all connected. And then when we encounter a cautionary situation or person, we can refrain and remain in our state of love. From this loving place within, we can choose how to respond or not respond.
I read in a Wayne Dyer book, which resonated deeply with me, “Fear knocked on the door; love answered, and no one was there”.
Live from a place of PURE LOVE.
Love and light and blessings,
The word dharma resonates deeply within me. Put most simply, our dharma is our true-life purpose. Our calling. I believe we all possess a unique gift that we are intended to share in this physical lifetime.
I remember the recently passed, Wayne Dyer, talking about one’s dharma and it struck a personal chord. He explained a bumblebee knows what it has been born to do. “To bumble and do what bees do” and that a tree knows its life purpose, as does the beautiful rose. He went on to say, that as humans we tend to interfere and divert from our natural purpose. I have witnessed this in my own life, we can cross paths with our intended journey, we can claim it, we can flirt with it and sometimes sadly we can miss our calling all together.
I remind my own children regularly, that they each have a special talent to share with our world. It is crucial message, setting a foundation to their individual life journeys. Quite consciously, I remove pressure and expectations from their respective achievements and performances. I encourage that they try a myriad of varying opportunities, to experiment and see what resonates with their true spirit. The special “thing” that each child is intended to share, that ‘magic’, that ‘unique gift’, I trust will naturally weave its way into their existence. We must as parents be careful in our coaching and guidance. Our own expectations, even our own unfulfilled dreams or desires can impose limitations or restrictions upon our child’s authentic purpose.
My eldest daughter recently showed me a maths test result. I praised her achievement and talked through the particular unit of maths. She expressed her concern that two of her friends received a higher score and that maths was a subject she really has to apply herself to. The look of concern on her little face worried me. I asked her why she was so distracted over her friends’ scores. She explained that with the commitment she had invested into this subject, she had expected she would have achieved similar results. I asked her;
“Do you enjoy maths?”
“Not really, the formulas and equations are just so difficult. It doesn’t feel easy. I wish I didn’t have to study maths.”
“How can we help you?”
“I don’t need help. I’m passing. I’m not really worried, just frustrated Mum.”
“What else are you studying that feels more natural to you?’ I asked.
“That’s easy”, she replied. “There’s a heap. I love writing, persuasive text is my favourite. Science thrills me. There’s something so fascinating about the Chinese language. My horse riding lessons never seem long enough. And sprinting, my legs have a mind of their own, and I run fast.”
I wrapped my arms around her and reassured her that these pursuits were her natural tendencies. “You don’t have to be good at everything. Accept your maths results. Don’t compare yourself to others. You need to find what makes YOU, YOU.”
My new book Little Angels bestows many affirmations for children, that I hope will help reduce fear and anxiety in our beautiful, individual blossoms. Check out my website for stockists: www.sarahfiggins.com