Children’s Book


Treating each child as a unique individual
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Treating each child as a unique individual

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We were all created as completely unique and special in our own way. We are all equal in the very fact that we are each different.  This is crucially fundamental in raising our children.

Each and every child is special, with unique combinations of abilities and needs. Parenting requires that we treat each child as a unique individual. Respecting a child’s individuality means displaying a genuine acceptance of that child as a unique creation ~ who has unlimited potential within them to fulfil their true life’s purpose.
A child who is embraced for their exclusive attributes, accepted for their differences, welcomed for the way they see our world, applauded for dancing to the beat of their own drum; is a child who flourishes in their uniqueness. These children develop a greater sense of self-confidence and self-esteem.

Discovering our children, what makes them tick and what excites them, without any comparison to their siblings or others, I believe is true magic. What a magnificent contribution parents can make to humanity, through consciously raising wholesome children that we don’t simply regard as an extension of ourselves.

With love Sarah xx

Illustrations taken from my children’s book ‘Little Angels’ available for sale on my website here

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WORDS That Empower Our Children
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WORDS That Empower Our Children

WORDS are powerful. At times, we can speak without thinking. A rushed moment, or we maybe tired from a long day of work, perhaps guilty of doing too many things at once or quite simply we’re grumpy. A reaction pops out. Or in my case ‘explodes’ out. Believe me ~ it happens to the best of us! Words can have long-lasting effects, especially on our children. A thoughtless word can shatter a child’s confidence, self-esteem and sense of worth. I’ve spent much of my adulthood, healing from the consequences of growing up with abusive and hurtful words. Some words have power beyond our years, beyond whatever changes we may make to ourselves and to our lives.

I made a conscious decision when my children were much younger to empower them in every way that I possibly could. I wished for my children to grow up healthy, loved, self-reliant and confident ~ in both themselves and their natural abilities. Words and actions have been the two platforms in which I’ve created effective empowerment.

Words & actions from a place of LOVE.

I have become aware of words as I say them. Thinking before I speak. I always try to speak from a place of love. True power should not hurt anyone; it should help them to see their own greatness and potential. I am conscious of the effect my words have ~ our words resonate within the very core of our children. Our words act as barometer, for how our children will speak to others and how they expect to be treated in return.

These are some of our WORDS that we use within our home to encourage, empower and reassure our children ……..

 

  1. I LOVE you
  2. You are beautiful
  3. Be YOU
  4. Expect great things
  5. Find your UNIQUE gift & share it
  6. BREATHE
  7. Relax
  8. What was your favourite thing today
  9. I TRUST you
  10. You are my teacher
  11. You don’t have to be good at everything
  12. You are KIND
  13. Live from heart
  14. Always stand in truth
  15. I BELIEVE in you
  16. Dance to the beat of your own drum
  17. Trust your INTUITION
  18. I am so proud of you
  19. You are MAGNIFICENT
  20. Do what makes you happy
  21. I’m listening
  22. Mistakes are lessons
  23. Let’s read
  24. It’s ok to say NO
  25. You are my SUNSHINE

It is a JOY, a privilege and a huge responsibility to parent a child. We don’t always get it right, but each day we have a new chance in shaping the lives of our children, their confidence and their self-esteem. There is still a place for words of discipline and disapproval of poor behaviour, but finding the right words to address the action is more appropriate than labelling or hurting a child.

Our words and conversations with our children create our reality, our future and our relationships. Remember ‘our voice becomes their inner voice’.

Check out Little Angels ~ a book I wrote with my three young daughters, offering a section of empowering messages & illustrations, designed to help curb fear and anxiety in other children. More information is available at www.sarahfiggins.com

With Love Sarah xx

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TEACHING OUR CHILDREN “INTUITION” ….
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TEACHING OUR CHILDREN “INTUITION” ….

 

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Carl Jung said: “Intuition is a function by which you see round corners” and it was Albert Einstein who once said that intuition is our most valuable asset, and one of our most unused senses. My youngest daughter in my book, Little Angels, describes intuition as a voice deep inside her tummy that tells her when she should or shouldn’t do something. She claims that this voice inside is always right. Page 6 of my book, depicts this very daughter contemplating climbing a bookcase to fetch a ball, that we had purposely placed up high. In reality she did climb the shelves, lost her balance and created a disarray of books, photo frames and cushions. When I walked into the room she said, ‘Mamma, my tummy was telling me not to climb, but I didn’t listen to it’. I smiled as I realised the importance of her acknowledging her own ability to judge between what was right and what was wrong. We have always encouraged our children to listen to this inner voice, their gut-feeling, their judgment connected to their feelings rather than their analytical mind – to rely on their inner voice that ‘just knows’.

 

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How many times have you had a random thought, response or impression that you should do or shouldn’t do something, only to later find out that your sensitivity was completely accurate? For some married couples, it took just one look to recognise their soul mate. Have you ever had a gut instinct about a situation and not listened to yourself but later reflected you wish you had? These flashes are familiar to everyone. Intuition is natural, a part of all of us. Intuition will tell you intimate and important things nobody else will—and it will also tell you things your own mind will argue with.

 

Intuition is a vital life skill set and I’m passionate about educating our children to rely upon this inner wisdom. For each of us, as our life story unfolds, with its plots and twists, highs and lows, times of difficulties and choices – simply going with our ‘gut’ can be the make or break of our navigation. Teaching our children from a young age to instinctively consult their inner wisdom prepares them for the wide world beyond. During their challenging teenage years of vulnerability, confusion, self-consciousness, fast-pace; intuition can be the key skillset that averts potentially damaging choices.

 

One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is to teach them to trust their intuition. This gift will be one of their strongest protections, empowering them through life’s crises and curve balls. Intuition will be what gets our children through.

 

With Love Sarah xx


MY 11YR OLD’S SPEECH TO HER SCHOOL FOR A CHANGE IN OUR WORLD
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MY 11YR OLD’S SPEECH TO HER SCHOOL FOR A CHANGE IN OUR WORLD

 

My daughter invested much of her time last weekend writing a speech to present to her school in an application for junior school captain 2016. We chatted together about leadership and what strengths she could offer the school in this leadership role. She contemplated writing with humour and tossed around different ideas that could attract potential votes. She showed me this final draft and said, ‘Mamma, you teach us to live from our heart, so I wrote this from my heart. The younger kids may think its boring and it’s not funny or flashy, but its who I am’. I can’t tell you how proud I am of this 11 year old who has taken to her stage this morning with kindness and compassion. No matter what the outcome, in my eyes she’s a leader in making a world change in her community.

With Love, Sarah xx

 

HI, if you don’t already know me, I’m Sienna. I’m here today to let you know why I would make a GREAT CHOICE for your junior school captain 2016.

This term, we’ve been studying the qualities of good leaders. We each researched leaders of our choice and their qualities and presented it to our class. Two of my leaders that really stood out to me, were Mother Teresa and Mahatma Gandhi. Mother Teresa devoted her entire life to helping the poor, homeless and sick. Mahatma Gandhi led India to independence through peace. Both of these leaders were very HUMBLE, KIND, COMPASSIONATE, and everything they did was for the best of their people.

In our current world, there is much hatred, religious warfare, prejudice and fighting. During these times, I believe WE CAN learn a lot from the great leaders; Ghandi, Mother Teresa & Nelson Mandela and bring PEACE.

If I were your school captain, I would lead with FAIRNESS, KINDNESS, COMPASSION and consider everyone. I will listen to each student, teacher, and even the smallest voice will be heard. In my leadership role I would hope to create happiness and harmony in the school community. By setting a good example in our school we can start to make the change the entire world needs. Imagine what 7 BILLION people could achieve if we all respected each other and showed kindness? The world can be changed by our example. Let me part of that change. Vote for FAIRNESS, vote for KINDNESS. Vote for me.

Image taken from my book Little Angels, available at all leading online book stores and my website soon.


How To Help Your Child Find Their True Purpose
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How To Help Your Child Find Their True Purpose

The word dharma resonates deeply within me. Put most simply, our dharma is our true-life purpose. Our calling. I believe we all possess a unique gift that we are intended to share in this physical lifetime.

I remember the recently passed, Wayne Dyer, talking about one’s dharma and it struck a personal chord. He explained a bumblebee knows what it has been born to do. “To bumble and do what bees do” and that a tree knows its life purpose, as does the beautiful rose. He went on to say, that as humans we tend to interfere and divert from our natural purpose. I have witnessed this in my own life, we can cross paths with our intended journey, we can claim it, we can flirt with it and sometimes sadly we can miss our calling all together.

I remind my own children regularly, that they each have a special talent to share with our world. It is crucial message, setting a foundation to their individual life journeys.  Quite consciously, I remove pressure and expectations from their respective achievements and performances. I encourage that they try a myriad of varying opportunities, to experiment and see what resonates with their true spirit. The special “thing” that each child is intended to share, that ‘magic’, that ‘unique gift’, I trust will naturally weave its way into their existence. We must as parents be careful in our coaching and guidance. Our own expectations, even our own unfulfilled dreams or desires can impose limitations or restrictions upon our child’s authentic purpose.

My eldest daughter recently showed me a maths test result. I praised her achievement and talked through the particular unit of maths. She expressed her concern that two of her friends received a higher score and that maths was a subject she really has to apply herself to. The look of concern on her little face worried me. I asked her why she was so distracted over her friends’ scores. She explained that with the commitment she had invested into this subject, she had expected she would have achieved similar results. I asked her;

“Do you enjoy maths?”

“Not really, the formulas and equations are just so difficult. It doesn’t feel easy. I wish I didn’t have to study maths.”

“How can we help you?”

“I don’t need help. I’m passing. I’m not really worried, just frustrated Mum.”

“What else are you studying that feels more natural to you?’ I asked.

“That’s easy”, she replied. “There’s a heap. I love writing, persuasive text is my favourite. Science thrills me. There’s something so fascinating about the Chinese language. My horse riding lessons never seem long enough. And sprinting, my legs have a mind of their own, and I run fast.”

I wrapped my arms around her and reassured her that these pursuits were her natural tendencies. “You don’t have to be good at everything. Accept your maths results. Don’t compare yourself to others. You need to find what makes YOU, YOU.”

My new book Little Angels bestows many affirmations for children, that I hope will help reduce fear and anxiety in our beautiful, individual blossoms. Check out my website for stockists: www.sarahfiggins.com

 

 

 

 


Little Angels
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Little Angels

One morning, my three amazing daughters and I sat in the car, on our way to school. We chatted about a friend’s daughter, who has anxiety as she adjusts to a new school. I listened to their suggestions and words of advice on ways this young girl could alter her situation and begin to enjoy this new experience.

I have always regarded my three girls as my teachers. Blessed that these Earth-Angels chose me as their mother in this lifetime, I’m extremely aware of the life lessons they bring to my everyday. We openly chat to our Angels, share our feelings, discuss the laws of attraction, meditate, heal, laugh, cry and share a deep connection of love and respect. I nurture, guide, support, love and recognise that each one of my daughters is on her own, individual journey. Each girl is here to fulfil her own life purpose.

My youngest daughter Claudia, whom we call Clouds, suggested we write a book for children using ideas from children. The ideas were to let children know they can ask for and get help from Angels, fairies, unicorns, music, the universe, meditation, friends and family. The car was a hive of conversation and excitement as we pondered the notion of sharing our awareness with like-minded children and families.

Witnessing the innate desire of my 10, 11 and 12 year old daughters wanting to connect and inspire other children, was a moment that simply took my breath away. Within an instant, from the words of ‘Little Angels’, this book was born.

With Love,

Sarah xx